My heart really goes out to all you Mums who feel that it is your fault if your child just doesn’t seem to “get” school
YOU are not a failure / a bad mum or useless!!!!
You have obviously tried all sorts of ways to help your wee boy and for whatever reason it isn't working.
Stop trying to teach your boy and instead just have fun playing and pottering about together. Keep reading to him and talk to him. Enjoy life together and find things he does well and notice and praise him.
When you get angry and frustrated when you are helping your child "learn" you make your child nervous and anxious and that creates problems in that they become scared to try. He is also probably very aware he is struggling and school and may be losing confidence in himself.
The RTLB ( Resource Teachers of Learning and Behaviour) are an amazing service and I am so glad they are coming in to work with you and the school to find out what is happening for your boy.
They will do some assessments and they may also get assessments done by people outside the school eg Educational Psychologists.
There are many reasons why your son may not be progressing and it’s important you find out what they are quickly and he gets the help he needs.
Work with the RTLB and his teacher to get to the bottom of this .
If you would like support from a parenting group let me know and I will supply you with some options and their contacts. There are many supportive groups out there.
Please don't feel like a bad mum. You sound like a great mum who has every right to be worried and fearful. Children with learning difficulties and special needs come from all kinds of families including ones full of love and learning - just like yours.
Take a big breath and love your son just the way he is, as you begin your search for how to support him learn and flourish.
Make sure you talk to other supportive parents about your fears and let them help you through this.
You are welcome to write again for any help you may need.
Take care
Julie
Julie Mulcahy -B Ed. Dip. Tch. NZ Registered. Experienced classroom teacher for students with learning or behaviour issues.
www.springboardnz.com - When you're ready to make a change - and just don't know what to do.
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